Mr and Mrs
Have a 'Happy Ever After' to your wedding story
" We will never argue, we won't have problems, our disagreements will be rare "
Marriage is difficult. Some couples will be lucky and have less difficulty than others, but it is hard living with another person, no matter how much you love them. Living together requires both of you to be flexible and adaptable, you will have to learn to adjust. Accepting this is accepting reality.
He will snore and forget to pick up the washing.
She will want THE 'talk' and share feelings or make the bathroom smell like the perfume section in boots.
Be patient with each other, learn to communicate before annoyances escalate. Here is a humourous survival guide with some useful hints....
Personal experience...do not forget to say Happy Birthday if it's their birthday the following day! Not a good start to the honeymoon!
Never believe a woman when she says "nothing" !
Try not to play the cry-and-make-him-feel-guilt game. He hates crying. The only time you will see him cry is when the TV remote can not be found
She doesn’t want you to do the dishes. She wants you to want to do the dishes
Don't try and change your partner. If they were good enough before you married, they still are
Getting married is an expensive way to get your laundry done free....try not to take your wife for granted
No matter how much they love you, they are not keen on the wind breaking, scratching, belching and toe picking
Having control of the remote is a huge responsibility. Decide early on who that responsibility should go to
Try not to answer a question with a question
Don't throw away his old shirts and say you haven't seen them
Try not to ask him trick questions that he has no chance of answering correctly or quickly enough
Take it in turns to make that morning cuppa
Always end the day with a hug and a kiss and never go to sleep on an arguement
Know when to give in, even though you may be right
Marriage is the lawful union of one man and one woman, for life, to the exclusion of all others. Marriage is a contract.
As with any contract, prior to entering into it, often the parties to a contract wish to seek independent legal advice as to the implications upon them, such as financial obligations and liabilities. On balance, would one really wish to treat marriage as a contract?
Lady Hale, in her dissenting judgment of the matter between Radmacher -v- Granatino, sums up rather well the two perspectives on those entering into the contract of marriage:-
'Some may regard people who are about to marry as in all respects fully autonomous beings; others may wonder whether people who are typically (although not invariably) in love can be expected to make rational choices in the same way that businessmen can. Some may regard the recognition of these factual differences as patronising or paternalistic; others may regard them as sensible and realistic. Some may think that to accord a greater legal status to these agreements will produce greater certainty and lesser costs should the couple divorce; others may question whether this will in fact be achieved, save at the price of inflexibility and injustice. Some may believe that giving greater force to marital agreements will encourage more people to marry; others may wonder whether they will encourage more people to divorce. Perhaps above all, some may think it permissible to contract out of the guiding principles of equality and non-discrimination within marriage; others may think this a retrograde step likely only to benefit the strong at the expense of the weak.' – Lady Hale
The union that marriage brings is life changing, in every sense. One ought to have regard to their financial affairs and this can be achieved by seeking advice upon a pre-nuptial agreement, something which is very much in the public eye certainly in the case of Radmacher, mentioned above.
Get advice from lawyers fully versed in preparing pre and post nuptial agreements.
Michael Trott F.Inst.L.Ex. Stephen Rimmer LLP
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