How To Combat Wedding Stress
Bridal Coaching for your Wedding Wellbeing
When you think of your wedding you picture yourself floating up the aisle to your husband to be and saying “I do”. However, what many brides don’t realise is the million and one “to dos” they have to do before they get there! Wedding planning is inevitably stressful but with a few simple techniques and tricks you can enjoy the process and, more importantly the day itself. There is no doubt about it that the most stressful aspects of wedding planning are staying on budget, guest list/management and dealing with well meaning family members.
The easiest way to stay on budget is to set one at the very outset and stick to it! Sounds simple but it is astounding how many couples do not set a budget at the start. Weddings are very emotional and many venues and suppliers will play on that and make you believe that you need their product to make your day fabulous. The key to staying on budget is to BE ORGANISED! Buy a wedding notebook or file so that you can keep all of your wedding information together in one place. This includes everything from receipts and fabric swatches to ideas and websites you come across. This way you will know at all times where to look for your wedding information instead of having scraps of paper and receipts lying around.
Make yourself a wedding timeline. This is very easy to do and just requires you to sit down and make a list of all the things you need to source, plan or book. Then put the list into order of when things need to be addressed. Priority jobs should be at the top of the list and of course, there are always certain things which should be done ASAP such as booking your venue and photographer. STICK TO YOUR TIMELINE! This is important. Even if you set aside an amount of time every couple of weeks to review your list and deal with any jobs that need doing, this will prevent stress from building up.
Now, those are the things that are within your control....however, well meaning family members are not! The key to this is to learn to stay calm and be assertive. After all, it is yours and your fiancées wedding, not theirs so what you say goes!
Here are a few phrases to start sentences with when being more assertive:
“I would appreciate it if....”
“I’m hoping you’ll....”
“It would be really helpful if....”
Also it is often useful to make a brief statement of empathy to soften your assertion. Such as:
“I can see you’ve been working hard....”
“There’s something I need to ask you....”
Being assertive naturally breeds confidence but also regularly picture your wedding day and how you want it to be or even write it down and you can use this in a guided imagery relaxation session. If all else fails this simple breathing technique called 7/11 will help.....simply breathe in for 7 counts and out for 11. This is an instant calmer and will help to keep you on track!
If you would like anymore advice or help please contact www.daisychainevents.com who would be gald to help you
Do not stress! Look after your Wedding Wellbeing
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WithBellsOn Article from: Debbie Stevens - Girls Night In - Qualified Advanced Reflexologist
Some useful wedding information for brides, bridesmaids and even groom’s to help them get fitter, more toned, confident and calm before and on their wedding day. The thing to remember is this day is for you and the most important thing is that you feel good, inside out. Buy a wedding notebook to answer these questions to help you get Specific About your Goals:
- How do you want to feel on your wedding day?
- How do you want to look on your wedding day?
- How much exercise do you currently do?
- Do you know how to achieve your goals, or do you need someone to help you on a weekly, fortnightly or monthly basis?
- Do you want to train on your own, with your fiancée, and/or bridesmaids?
- Do you need support and advice with healthy eating to give you energy, lose weight and feel good?
- What things are going to stress you the most? Once you have identified these – write a solution and plan to manage these stresses?
Write a plan for each month leading up to the wedding with really specific goals to help you achieve the overall big goal. This will make things happen – we promise! One you have taken the time to do this follow our simple tips to help you have a happy wedding, feeling fabulous on the day:
*Aim to do at least 20mins of daily activity – brisk walking, dancing, cycling to raise the heart rate and help to burn fat.
*Plan 2-3 ‘training sessions’ when you get sweaty, and start to improve your overall fitness – include cardio exercises, weights for toning and fat burning and core muscles to improve your posture for the wedding day, and flatten your abs for the honeymoon!
*Daily exercises to improve your posture and core – for example, when your phone rings – pull in your lower core muscles, relax your shoulders and lift through the spine
*Aim to eat three balanced meals a day including complex carbohydrates, quality protein and essential fatty acids, in a small portion size.
*Drink at least 1.5litres of water a day (take a bottle to work and it should be empty when you go home!) and start the day with a big mug of green tea to boost the immune system, and fat burning zone.
*Try to have little or no sugars, processed foods, and refined simple carbohydrates – plus little alcohol if you can – keep it all in balance
*Plan your food and snacks in advance so you have good things with you, and avoid getting over hungry
*Keep a happy diary – writing down three things each day that have happened that made you smile, however small
*Review your goals from the initial questions on a weekly basis to make sure you are on track
*Get plenty of good quality sleep – aiming to be resting between 11pm – 6am at least as this is when you body gets the best repair
*Task people with things to do so they feel involved, and help keep you calm
*Write down how you would like to feel on the day – what four qualities would you like to have. Ie. Happy, calm, confident and fun
*Any limiting feelings you have , write them down and then focus on what the positive would be to let go of that fear
*Start to visualise yourself on the day – what you will be wearing, how you will feel, who will be there, how happy you will be – keep a positive focus
*Allow yourself to relax and be happy – believe in you, smile and have fun – it is your special day
If you would like any advice in your preparations about anything, from weight loss and toning, to confidence and calmness Energised Performance can support you. We offer a Big Bootcamp for Hen and Stag parties if you are looking for some challenging but fun exercise as part of your weekend!
"So commit to believing in yourself, and making this
day wonderful for you, inside and out"
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WithBellsOn Article from: Kim Ingleby BSc(Hons) Head Coach
International Personal Trainer of the Year 2007 / GB Team Sports Therapist & NLP Performance Coach